Comments on: Is it me? http://blog.davidhoang.com/2010/01/is-it-me/ Visual Artist + Designer Sat, 24 Jul 2010 00:00:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: maybear25 http://blog.davidhoang.com/2010/01/is-it-me/#comment-39 maybear25 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:13:12 +0000 http://blog.davidhoang.com/?p=176#comment-39 I don't think there's anything wrong with being (seemingly) over motivated, everyone is inspired and pushed differently and for some of us a continuous drive to attain goals; both big and small is just how we operate. I also don't think it's wrong to want to be surrounded with like minded or similarly motivated people. Isn't there that saying of "surround yourself with the people who will lift you up," or something like that? Whether those around you are feeling as if they're being (unintentionally) pressured to be at a certain "level" is up to them and how they feed off your energy. Some people are intimidated by success or size themselves up to those around them (subconsciously) and create their own internal pressure/need to be like others. As long as you don't literally isolate yourself from others by only immersing yourself in your work or yourself I don't think you're in a bad place. <br>As far as the whole bit on dropping everything to help someone you've never even met, I also don't think that's a fault, in fact I wish there were more people in this world with such compassion for others. To love unconditionally is a quality not most posses nor do most truly understand and so don't ever lose sight of that or let others make you second guess it. I don't think there's anything wrong with being (seemingly) over motivated, everyone is inspired and pushed differently and for some of us a continuous drive to attain goals; both big and small is just how we operate. I also don't think it's wrong to want to be surrounded with like minded or similarly motivated people. Isn't there that saying of “surround yourself with the people who will lift you up,” or something like that? Whether those around you are feeling as if they're being (unintentionally) pressured to be at a certain “level” is up to them and how they feed off your energy. Some people are intimidated by success or size themselves up to those around them (subconsciously) and create their own internal pressure/need to be like others. As long as you don't literally isolate yourself from others by only immersing yourself in your work or yourself I don't think you're in a bad place.
As far as the whole bit on dropping everything to help someone you've never even met, I also don't think that's a fault, in fact I wish there were more people in this world with such compassion for others. To love unconditionally is a quality not most posses nor do most truly understand and so don't ever lose sight of that or let others make you second guess it.

]]> By: David Hoang http://blog.davidhoang.com/2010/01/is-it-me/#comment-38 David Hoang Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:23:32 +0000 http://blog.davidhoang.com/?p=176#comment-38 Thx Greg. I don't know man, I just feel lately I've been alienating people or just straight-up freaking people out. Thx Greg. I don't know man, I just feel lately I've been alienating people or just straight-up freaking people out.

]]> By: David Hoang http://blog.davidhoang.com/2010/01/is-it-me/#comment-37 David Hoang Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:22:53 +0000 http://blog.davidhoang.com/?p=176#comment-37 Thanks for sharing this, Brian. It's really insightful. I guess for me, I worry about the little things. I don't know...lately I've felt like I've created pressure on people without meaning to. Thanks for sharing this, Brian. It's really insightful. I guess for me, I worry about the little things. I don't know…lately I've felt like I've created pressure on people without meaning to.

]]> By: CoolGuyGreg http://blog.davidhoang.com/2010/01/is-it-me/#comment-36 CoolGuyGreg Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:11:13 +0000 http://blog.davidhoang.com/?p=176#comment-36 Does it matter? Honestly, would you stop being "ambitious and loving" if someone told you that you were intimidating because of those traits.The world needs more people like you. More people who care about complete strangers. People willing to go the extra mile to care for someone they don't know instead of waiting for a major catastrophe and do it because everyone else is doing it.<br><br>Don't sweat the people who may feel pressured. Be true to yourself and you will be blessed. Just keep in mind that there are people out there who enjoy your company. :) Does it matter? Honestly, would you stop being “ambitious and loving” if someone told you that you were intimidating because of those traits.The world needs more people like you. More people who care about complete strangers. People willing to go the extra mile to care for someone they don't know instead of waiting for a major catastrophe and do it because everyone else is doing it.

Don't sweat the people who may feel pressured. Be true to yourself and you will be blessed. Just keep in mind that there are people out there who enjoy your company. :)

]]> By: brian http://blog.davidhoang.com/2010/01/is-it-me/#comment-35 brian Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:09:22 +0000 http://blog.davidhoang.com/?p=176#comment-35 You're on to something. There's nothing wrong with helping people, it's something I think we should do more of, but sometimes we lose sight of the intent, or the focus of our help. It's subtle, that's why I don't think everybody recognises it. <br><br>I came across some words the other day, that I think were startlingly coincidental to what you talked about:<br><br>"For long time I thought helping others is all I wanted to do and all I needed. Others would be my world, my life. But too soon I realised how <br><br>1) dangerous (I was getting involved in people's private, sacred, confidential, mouldable lives)<br>2) tiring (I gave myself the task of being responsible FOR another's life and what they did with it) it became. <br><br>People were dependent on me and I in a strange , unhealthy but very real way was also dependent on them. I was trying to live off the happiness I got from helping them. I made others my aim, my purpose my primary concern. <br><br>It all sounds very good and honourable but it really is the worst thing you can do for anyone and for yourself. It didn't matter how many 'outlets' i had, however many journals and people I could talk to, suddenly what was meant to be about 'them' became rapidly about me needing my daily fix of 'I did something good today for somebody'. <br><br>It all started crumbling really bad esp when my help just wasn't helping anymore and I started becoming to emotionally drained to be of any actual help to anybody. I started getting annoyed and frustrated, I couldn't do it on my own."<br><br>And in the words of Oceansize, "I am not the picture, now I am the frame." - <a href="http://wakingupto.wordpress.com/2010/01/17/233-oceansize-the-frame/" rel="nofollow">http://wakingupto.wordpress.com/2010/01/17/233-...</a> You're on to something. There's nothing wrong with helping people, it's something I think we should do more of, but sometimes we lose sight of the intent, or the focus of our help. It's subtle, that's why I don't think everybody recognises it.

I came across some words the other day, that I think were startlingly coincidental to what you talked about:

“For long time I thought helping others is all I wanted to do and all I needed. Others would be my world, my life. But too soon I realised how

1) dangerous (I was getting involved in people's private, sacred, confidential, mouldable lives)
2) tiring (I gave myself the task of being responsible FOR another's life and what they did with it) it became.

People were dependent on me and I in a strange , unhealthy but very real way was also dependent on them. I was trying to live off the happiness I got from helping them. I made others my aim, my purpose my primary concern.

It all sounds very good and honourable but it really is the worst thing you can do for anyone and for yourself. It didn't matter how many 'outlets' i had, however many journals and people I could talk to, suddenly what was meant to be about 'them' became rapidly about me needing my daily fix of 'I did something good today for somebody'.

It all started crumbling really bad esp when my help just wasn't helping anymore and I started becoming to emotionally drained to be of any actual help to anybody. I started getting annoyed and frustrated, I couldn't do it on my own.”

And in the words of Oceansize, “I am not the picture, now I am the frame.” – http://wakingupto.wordpress.com/2010/01/17/233-...

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